We often dedicate a lot of attention to the stages of pregnancy and postpartum. We focus on physical activities, prepare for childbirth, and seek advice on breastfeeding and parenting. We seek social connections and restructure our lives around our baby.
All of this is essential and necessary.
Sin embargo, puede llegar un momento en el que anhelemos más. Queremos volver a ser nosotras mismas, recuperar nuestra vida social, profesional y de pareja. Deseamos retomar actividades que nos gustan y nos hacen sentir bien. Queremos sentirnos como algo más que simplemente «la mamá de…».
This is completely normal, and many women experience this desire. It’s important to understand that this doesn’t mean we love our child any less or don’t enjoy being mothers. It simply means we continue to be women with other needs and desires.
It is healthy and normal to want to rejoin our professional life, resume our hobbies, strengthen our relationship with our partner, and even enjoy moments alone. There is nothing wrong with wanting more.
The arrival of a baby completely transforms our lives, but it is valid to seek a sense of normalcy or to find a new balance that integrates aspects of our previous life with our new reality.
If you find yourself in this moment, don’t feel guilty; you are not alone. Many women go through the same thing. Although it can be a challenging period, it is possible to reconnect with ourselves, strengthen our relationship with our partner, and redefine ourselves to find that new balance that allows us to resume our (new) life.